60 seconds confidence building – overcoming disappointment

I hated being disappointed.  Even over the smallest things.  Someone being late and ‘ruining’ my plans for the day was enough for my world to cave in.  I could take this disappointment thing to the nth degree.  I mastered the art of disappointment till I had to evict disappointment out of my life permanently.

So why do we hate disappointments?  Because it hurts.  It seems like someone has punched our lights out when disappointment comes our way.  Sometimes disappointment can be so painful, it seems like it is game over. We can be left full of regret, feel rejected  or for some, they even feel suicidal.

So how can we overcome disappointment (and even suicide thoughts)?

##1 Pray

Prayer gives supernatural strength, i.e. a strength that cannot be humanly explained.  Recently, I was faced with very devastating news.  Even though initially when I was in shock I found it difficult to pray, others were praying for me.  Time did not become the healer.  But the prayers that were being offered on my behalf helped me to stand strong against the contrary bitter winds, and find a smile in the storm.

Prayer is my first step when I am faced with a crisis.  I believe in the power and eficacy of prayer.  Prayer changes things.  Dr Myles Munroe said prayer is earthly license for heavenly interference.  How true.  Prayer gets our angels to work, sets things in order.  We may not see the immediate effect always but I get inspired by the story of  Daniel who prayed 21 days, not knowing his angel had been dispatched from day 1 to come to his aid (Daniel 10:12-13).

##2 Get inspiration

We are often inspired when we hear of other stories of people who have overcome crises similar or even worse than our own.   Even if they are not in the same classification, the fact they conquered this seemingly impossible mountain gives us hope.  Read autobiographies, watch similar movies or testimonies, read the Bible. You will soon be on the road to recovery.  It is sometimes the push we need that if others did this, so can I!

##3  Look for a new door opening for you!

I remember having my heart broken many years ago.  Today, I am happily married and think, boy, why was I even disappointed, heartbroken, depressed even and so on?  The guy did me a big favour!  For one thing, I would not be writing on this blog today because my life would not have gone in that direction.  So I would have missed out on meeting all you beautiful people…that’s unimaginable. And I have the best, kindest and sweetest husband for me.  Everywhere we go, everyone compliments us.  So when that door closed a nicer, bigger one opened.  See beyond the moment.  You can find love.  You can get a better job.  The door has been shut because something better is coming.   Look out of the window and watch for the delivery van bringing your new door.

If you have been cheered up reading this post, why not share this with someone else.  Let’s have a world with less disappointed but happier people.  Thank you!

About The Author

Zoe

Zoe met Eze (Chuck) in the 14th year of what turned out to be an 18 year ‘journey’ with mental illness. They got married less than a year of meeting with Zoe fully knowing Chuck had a diagnosis of mental illness. In the 18th year, Chuck defied the odds of mental illness. A consultant psychiatrist signed him off the mental health system with a bill of NO MENTAL ILLNESS. The consultant was so amazed by Chuck’s astonishing recovery that he even questioned how Chuck was diagnosed with mental illness all those years before, in the first place! Today Chuck is free from medication, its dependency and hospitalizations. Zoe’s award nominated book, DEFYING THE ODDS, chronicles the highs and ‘lows’ of this journey. Zoe, often writing from the standpoint of a caregiver, clearly understands that mental illness does not only affect an individual challenged with the disease, but also families, marriages and society as a whole.

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