How to Create a Peace of Mind for Yourself
Is there a war raging with yourself? Sometimes we are our own unpaid critic with our doom and gloom declarations. Things bother us. People, the news, work, family, so many things. We overthink things we should not even be thinking about. We fret too much. Someone upsets us and steals our peace.
End result? We find that we do not have peace with ourselves. Because we feel guilty, unloved even, angry and so many other emotions
So how do we get there?
#1 Making allowances for other people’s behaviors help our mental health
Seeing the good always helps our mental health. Try to get more information before responding to others. Don’t jump to conclusions so quickly. Give the benefit of the doubt! If someone is acting odd or even avoiding you, why not think that perhaps they did not see you that day.
Often our imagination can cloud our perceptions. And when that does, it affects us. We immediately feel angry or that someone is slighting us. Something may have happened that is causing someone to behave funny. Maybe they received some unpleasant news. Maybe they have a lot on their mind. See it that way. You will be surprised.
#2 Recognize everyone is different
We are all not the same. Besides everyone is at different levels of maturity or at different stages of their life. The fact others do not do things the way you do, could be due to ignorance on their part, it could be due to their personality or just that they simply do not. Rather than heaving smoke from your lungs, just say to yourself, they are not there yet! It will help your sanity and even save a friendship or relationship too!
#3 Be at peace with others
The Bible adds ‘if it is possible’. This means, yes that there are just some ‘difficult’ people that you just may never get along with or rather have chosen not to get along with you! Accept it and don’t allow it to affect you. Maybe one day they will change. Maybe!
#4 Believe everyone likes you
Yes we said in the point above that not everyone may choose to get along with you. Perhaps they have openly told you they dislike or even hate you (the latter being a very strong word). For your sanity, just see yourself as someone whom everyone likes. Say to yourself, what is there not to like? Your positive declaration will help you also in how you react towards them which ultimately will affect how they start reacting to you. When you don’t give back to people their own medicine, it knocks them for six. People often want you to mirror their bad behaviour. When you do not, it bothers them. It even grates them. Eventually, they learn to respect you even if they do not ‘like’ you. But their respect for you would be a secret they keep to themselves though!
#5 Be at peace with God
Often people are busy arguing with God, picking fights with Him. Those who do not believe He exist too, are often trying to make a strong point about why He does not exist.
The truth is there is eternity in all our hearts. Deep down inside, we know there is more to life than what we are seeing here on this planet. That is why we are all curious about death. An atheist once said it is very scary coming face to face with death and not believing. That is because we are all eternity conscious, which makes us eternity driven. A World War 2 chaplain said there are no atheists in the foxholes. So the truth is we all believe in something.
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