How to reduce Stress, maintain Mental Health in Divorce -Part 2
By Luci Larkin
Sometimes the support of friends and family is enough to see a person through, others may need more help such as counselling or medical advice.
With the right divorce lawyer you should be able to resolve a divorce sensibly enabling you and your children to move on with your lives in the most amicable and constructive way.”
So what is the secret?
Divorce lawyers’ tips for a less stressful divorce
Luci explains, “As tempting as it is to take advice from your best friend or the “know it all guy” in the pub it’s really important to seek proper professional advice. Couple this with my 5 tips below:
- Talk to a family lawyer who is ideally a member of Resolution committed to resolving disputes in a non-confrontational way.
- Listen to the professional advice given to you and try to act upon it. Always negotiate before you litigate. Compromise is the essence of any agreement.
- Inevitably there will be disagreements with your spouse but try to keep emotions under control and avoid verbal abuse and threats. This will simply lead to them becoming difficult and inflexible. You do not want a war.
- Try to avoid involving the children or using them as a pawn. They are innocent in this situation and they will need the love and support of both parents. Ideally sit down and agree a parenting plan.
- Think about timing. You may have been thinking about a divorce for years whereas your partner may only have received the news a matter of weeks ago. Expecting your spouse to discuss future living arrangements at a time when they are still reeling from the news that you want to end the marriage, may be unrealistic. You might have to slow down for a while, be patient, and wait until they are ready to move things forward.”
Whilst getting a divorce is clearly not an ideal situation it does not have to be a time consuming, stressful, unpleasant money pit.
Sensible advice coupled with calm cooperation can help to ensure the experience is as painless and cost effective as possible but more importantly that you and your children can move forward with your lives in the best possible way.
Luci is an experienced and approachable divorce and family solicitor with Woolley & Co, based in Barnet, Greater London. Her working mantra is to establish what clients want and move towards achieving that outcome as quickly and as cost-effectively as possible.
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Luci Larkin is a Divorce & Family Lawyer with Woolley & Co. – A Family Law Firm
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