When they won’t say ‘Sorry’
Rather than stew in the sauce of the pain inflicted, here are some takeaway relishes for you.
1. We cannot control what others do to us, but we can control how we react.
2. Forgiveness does not need apology as a receipt.
3. You can heal from things you received no apology for.
4. Sometimes you don’t get closure. Just move on.
5. Remember “Sorry” even with the best intentions, does not mean it won’t happen again. “It won’t happen again”, is a promise. And promises can be broken. “I will make it up to you”, is also a promise. This means apologies saying sorry, etc, are more to help the other person, than yo help you!
6. Trying to get even is pointless. For one thing when you forgive, you give up your right to revenge. When you forgive, you get out of the lifelong prison sentence of bitterness. The taste of revenge can never be satisfied.
7. It is a pointless exercise waiting to hear news of their downfall. Again, you could wait till eternity.
I remember when some bloke broke my heart. I kept hoping I would hear news of his demise, his pain and deep regret for the fact he had done so. It never happened.
I was simply wasting my days. Life is too precious waiting for such news. Besides, if you hear the opposite of how well they are doing, it will only make you more upset.
If someone does not say sorry it may be hard especially when you are hurt. But you cannot afford to put your life on hold.
Maybe instead, use the time and energy to reflect on those whom you may have hurt for which you never said sorry. (It may have been unknowingly, but think why the party has unfriended you or blocked your number).
I believe we are all guilty!
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